There is little benefit dwelling on what is supposed to be as one encounters what has happened. It would serve us better to deal with the effects on what has already happened. Such clear-sightedness is essential for emotional health. Without it, one stagnates at the point of bitterness and anger. With it, one transforms hatred, suffering, unfairness, misfortune to love, understanding, triumph, and strength. Such a creative process can be fostered with psychotherapy and life coaching.